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Four years

15 May

Let me tell you a story of how I fell in love.

I met Sebastian while playing on a co-ed soccer team. He was our best player, and I liked it when we were on the field together. I appreciated that he understood the sport and was good at it. That’s how it started, two people playing a game we both loved.

I remember I couldn’t really understand his accent at first, but found him incredibly charming. There was always an ease between us, like we’d known each other for years. I’d tease him about his English pronunciations, and he’d make fun of my clumsiness. I loved it when I made him laugh.

Eventually group hang outs with friends turned into outings with just the two of us. We’d play racquetball or get burritos. It was always so easy, so comfortable.

The semester was coming to a close, and it was time for him to go home. I didn’t want him to leave, but I knew he couldn’t stay. I had a million thoughts in my head. Does he know how I feel? Could we really make this work?

The night before he was heading home, he said what we both knew all along: “I think I more than like you,” and I whispered back, “I think I know.”

Four years later, I’m still madly in love and just as crazy about him. People always ask me how we do long-distance, how we make it work, and the answer is we just do. My life is so much better with him in it than without. And although it’s unconventional, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Four Years

Dearest Basti – life is so full of love and laughter because of you.
Thank you for this wonderful adventure.

Happy four years! xoxo

P.S. I think I more than like you.

Three years

15 May

Another year spent apart, but another year together. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. Many people don’t understand our relationship, and why we choose to make it work, but I’m OK with that. What’s important is he gets me, and I get him. It doesn’t matter if people don’t get us.

I’m reminded every day that we’re 4,206 miles apart, yet he’s the closest person to me. He knows all my secrets, my hopes and my dreams. He knows what makes me laugh and how to push my buttons. He knows my favorite color and my silly routines. He’s seen me at my best, and he’s seen me at my worst. He knows it all, and still chooses to love me for me. I never have to pretend who I am with Sebastian.

So today we celebrate our crazy relationship – the relationship no one else truly gets, but the one we do, and that’s all that really matters.

Basti and Me

Dear Sebastian – you bring more joy to my life than you’ll ever know. Thank you for the most wonderful three years.

Happy Anniversary, love.



8 Apr

I can’t deny it; I’ve been having an extra tough time since Sebastian went back to Germany. So much so that I let it take over my life this past weekend. I’m embarrassed to say I spent 80 percent of the time in bed and may or may not have finished an entire season of Mad Men. So many questions were running through my head and overwhelming me. How long are we going to do this? Are we ever going to end up in the same place? Why does long-distance have to be so hard? And then on Sunday I broke down.

But luckily, I broke down in front of Sebastian on Skype. He is such an incredibly understanding guy. I was a blubbering, snotty mess, and he stayed there with me, letting me cry it out. And then something really good happened. I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I remembered, despite the ups and downs, long-distance is worth it. I remembered he’s worth it. So after we hung up the call, I picked myself up out of bed, pulled it together and stopped wallowing in self-pity. I know it won’t always be like this, and if I’m patient, everything will work out some day.

So here’s to feeling better. Here’s to feeling normal. And here’s to all the long-distance lovers out there. This one’s for you.

dance in the rain

images via 1, 2

Counting down

20 Mar


Can’t wait!

Birthday wishes from afar

29 Oct

It’s days like today when long distance is especially hard. Today is Sebastian’s 25th birthday, and just like the ones before, we won’t be spending it together. In fact, we have yet to spend a birthday together. Yet, we always try to make it special for the other person, even from far away.

If it were possible, I’d hop on the first flight to Berlin to wish him happy birthday in person. But until that time, a package and a birthday call will have to suffice.

happy birthday, love

sending extra good thoughts your way


A little faith and some random thoughts

15 Oct

Two weeks have gone by since I arrived home from my vacation in Germany, and I’m starting to get back into the groove of things. I’m always in this weird funk when I return – my physical body is here, but my heart is somewhere else.

Last week felt especially difficult. It was a rough week at work, and I was seriously starting to doubt myself. Just when I was feeling really down, I came across this quote:

It’s so true that we often put ourselves down, or at least I do. It’s something I will try to change because I know I am worth a lot, and I should try to have more faith in my abilities.

Speaking of quotes that helped me get through the week, I am obsessed with the character Phil Dunphy from “Modern Family” and his Phil’sosophy on life. This one is my favorite:

And finally, this Saturday I attended a wedding for two of my close friends Kyle and Danielle. It was a beautiful ceremony for a beautiful couple. The reception was a blast, and I feel in a much better place this Monday.

{the lovely couple}

{Nick photobombing us – Lauren, Erika, me}

{in John’s words: we would absolutely survive the zombie apocalypse}

Cheers to the week ahead!

images via: 1, 2, 5 and my friends’ FB photos

Auf Wiedersehen

21 Sep

So long, friends! I’m off to zee Deutschland to spend eight glorious days with Sebastian. It’s been exactly 110 days since I’ve seen my boyfriend, and I can’t wait to finally be with him again!

{picture from my first trip to Germany back in 2010}

We’ve been doing this for almost two and half years, and one thing is certain: long-distance isn’t always easy, but when you find the right person, it’s definitely worth it.

Until we meet again, Auf Wiedersehen! xoxo

Staying connected

18 Jul

When people find out I’m in a long-distance relationship (and have been for a while), they like to ask  how we make our relationship work. My answer is we talk every day. I know, I know –  it’s a no-brainer. But just like any relationship, we put in the effort to communicate with each other.

Our favorite app is WhatsApp, which enables you to message (text) for free. We message each other a couple of times a day just to see what the other person is up to.

I send pictures like this:

And he sends me pictures of his dinner (with his awful phone camera):

Yes, I get it’s silly, but when you never see the other person things like this help you feel connected.

Every night we talk during my drive home to catch up on each other’s day. The time difference is six hours so if Sebastian is tired, the call is short. But it really doesn’t matter how long the call is, the point is we always talk.

We also try to Skype for a couple of hours on the weekends. You probably think we’d run out of things to talk about, but we haven’t yet. We laugh, tell jokes, share videos and articles, talk about our upcoming trips and future goals, and before we know it, three hours have gone by.

Regardless of how often or how long we talk, I think we’ve made it through because we truly care about each other, and we do our best to let the other person know it. Whether it’s sending a quick message to say hey, sending a letter in the mail or staying up late to talk on the phone.

I’m curious though, how do you stay connected in your relationships? I know it’s sometimes easy to take the other person for granted. How do you show you still care?

Two years

15 May

Two years ago today I graduated college, and while that is a pretty significant event in my life, it’s not why this day is special to me. Two years ago today I started dating Sebastian.

I never expected to fall for a German guy, as I’m sure he never expected to fall for an American girl. But sometimes the unexpected happens. We met while playing soccer at Kent State and quickly bonded over our love for Chipotle, traveling and How I Met Your Mother.

Our relationship had an interesting start. I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship and he was heading back to Germany. It didn’t seem like the most ideal situation, and we both had our doubts.

That first summer was filled with Skype dates, phone calls, letters, emails and eventually a trip to Germany. It became pretty clear that we were both in this for the long haul.

What a whirlwind these past two years have been. We’ve traveled to more than 20 cities, stayed in 15 different hotels and learned a lot about each other along the way. And I think we both agree we wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Dear Sebastian – thank you for the most unexpected and wonderful two years.

Happy Anniversary, love.


Resolutions revisited

25 Apr

The nice thing about setting goals is you can always go back and reevaluate.  Since we’re past the first quarter of 2012, it felt like a good time so see how I’m doing. Surprisingly, I’m right on track.

  1. See Sebastian at least every three months. We’re doing well with this. I visited him at the start of the year, and he surprised me with a visit during Valentine’s week. We’re planning a vacation for the end of May, and I cannot wait to see him again. The gap from his February visit to May will be a little over three months, but I’ll take that any day over five. I can’t believe last year we went from June to November without seeing each other. Never again.
  2. Learn German. I reset my Rosetta Stone lessons to start over from the beginning, and re-enrolled in studio sessions. I’m only a few weeks in and already surprised by how much I remember – and how much I forgot. Each week I try to do two lessons. Maybe I’ll be fluent yet!
  3. Read more. This has been a fun goal to meet. I received a Kindle for Christmas, and I’m absolutely in love with it. I thought I would miss turning pages, but the technology is amazing. The screen really looks like a real page, which I love for my eyes, my books download in seconds, and I’m definitely reading more. So far this year, I’ve read: Wicked by Gregory Maguire, The Hunger Games series by Suzanne Collins and the Fifty Shades of Grey series by E.L. James. Looking forward to downloading more books for my upcoming beach vacation!
  4. Get back in shape. This is still a struggle, but I like a good challenge. I recently completed a 5K and I’m planning to run a 10K in May. It’s nice to work toward something, and slowly but surely I’m getting there.

I’m proud of my progress and glad that I set realistic goals. What were your resolutions? Are you on track to reach your goals?

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