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23 Feb

Every time Sebastian visits, I find it hard to believe he was actually here. Was it really just Monday that he was sitting next to me? He was and it was the best surprise visit EVER.

Now that he’s back in Germany, there are a lot of things I already miss, but the thing I miss the most is his laugh. It’s the one sound that can instantly bring a smile to my face and make me laugh too. There’s nothing like being goofy with someone and laughing together.

When it comes to relationships, find someone who makes you laugh.

laughterimage via

Miles apart

18 Jan

“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the brave. It is for those willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those who know a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.”

Most of us have been there at one point in our lives. Maybe it was a few hours away, maybe it was another state, or maybe it was like my situation, across the ocean. Long-distance relationships. They’re bound to happen – unless you’re like my parents and fall in love with your high school sweetheart (but even they spent time apart when my dad was in the service.)

Some people make them work. Some people don’t. In most cases it’s a personal decision. Either it’s worth it to you or it’s not. To me, it’s worth it. And despite being 4,000 miles apart, Sebastian and I are happy in a relationship. Is it hard? Of course. Do we make it work? Somehow.

I often get asked, “How do you make it work?” The truth is, we just do. We both realize that time spent apart is better than no time at all. But if I had to give words of wisdom, here are some things I’ve learned along the way.

Make time to talk every single day. Even if it’s only for ten minutes on your drive home from work when he’s really sleepy.

Write letters. There’s something to say about physically holding something the other person touched just days ago.

Share in each other’s joys and sorrows. Even though you can’t be there, celebrate the accomplishments and be there the best you can for the hard times.

Enjoy the time you do have together. Understand that it won’t always be perfect, but it will go fast, so savor every minute of it.

Maybe 2012 will be different. Maybe we’ll end up together this year. For now though, we’ll continue to make it work. And when the distance feels difficult, because some days it will, I’ll remember he’s worth it and only a plane ride away.


The Bliss List

7 Oct

This week has gone by exceptionally fast and for that I am thankful. The busier I am, the less I think about Sebastian and how far away he is. I counted today, and it’s been 110 days since I last saw him. In reality, I know it’s not that long, but it feels like forever. And to add to it, I keep having the same conversation with everyone over and over again. “No, he’s not moving here anytime soon,” “I don’t know when we’ll see each other next,” “Yes, it’s very difficult.” For the most apart, I think I’m dealing well with the situation, but it always feels like something is missing.

At least the weather has been nice, and I continue to find little things to cheer me up. Here are a few things that made me smile this week:

leaves{changing leaves}

fall day{beautiful fall days}

pumpkins{pumpkins in our field}

Side note: It’s my little brother’s homecoming tonight and he’s on court. Good luck Broseph! Even if you don’t win you’ll always be a king in our hearts.